By Laurie Gerber w/ Dr. Lauren Streicher “Orgasms are like blowing your nose.” Yup, that is the kind of thing my coach (and creator of The Handel Method®) Lauren Handel Zander, says. I chuckle and ask what she means. Sometimes she speaks in koans. “If you need to blow your nose, you just do, you […]
It’s almost Labor Day Weekend, which means summer is sadly winding down and autumn is right around the corner. In the next two weeks, we’ll really start to feel the change. Kids will be back at school. The leaves will begin to turn and just like that, we’re entering the last part of the year. […]
These days, marriages, long term partnerships, whether business or familial, typically end. If, however, they do manage to last, most are pretty uninspired or, at best, a slight upgrade of our parents’ relationship. For example, if our parents never touched publicly, we, on the other hand, might hold hands with our partners. Or if our […]
COACHING LOVE This Valentine’s Day, let me let you in on a secret: everyone is hung up about love! It’s one of the top concerns I hear from my clients. Yes, even the hugely successful feel like they are utterly failing at it. Luckily, I love coaching people about love, unraveling their thought patterns, sorting […]
(*Duh, of course this goes for all kinds of couples, not just husbands and wives.) You’re talking to a former once or a twice a month-er. I was one of those women who “put out” a bit more in the dating phase, but even then, sex was treated as currency to be carefully guarded and […]
(Click here to read an original op-ed from the TED speaker who inspired this post.) For most of us, keeping passionate love and hot sex alive in a long-term committed relationship is one of our deepest longings. We all want it, and yet most of us have a hard time believing it’s possible or figuring […]
I’m about to bring up a subject matter that is still in this day and age considered taboo. Even to audiences of 18 and over. Ready? Here it is. I want to talk to you about your SEX LIFE and how to make it better. It starts with opening your mouth. I’m talking about communication. […]
If you are in a committed relationship, I suggest you tell your partner when you are flirting with someone else. And certainly, if you are cheating. That is, if you want the relationship to be deep, loving, connected and lasting. But actually even if you don’t. I’ll explain why below. I know what you’re thinking: […]
Awhile back, my husband and I spent two days coaching a couple once so in love, now on the brink of divorce. We had already been working with them individually, with my husband coaching the husband and I coaching the wife. We were managing to help each one cope with the stress of a dissolving […]
It’s a common misperception in relationships that things should be equal. Not so. Did that get your attention? Keep reading. Do we agree that most fights in relationships have to do with unmet expectations about who is responsible for what? (This includes keeping love, romance, trust and sex alive and thriving!) For example, you might […]
Especially you ladies (and yes, I am going to generalize here; please forgive me and know that I know no generalizations are totally true), you are going to need to stop withholding your pleasure from your mates and dates. Your pleasure is what makes the world go round. Go ahead, smile. Doesn’t that feel good? […]
My mom reads my blogs so I have to warn her right at the top. Hope this made it through your spam filters; don’t worry it’s nothing graphic. It’s all, as always, about the power of your mind. My health teacher in seventh grade made the joke: “what’s the most important part of your body […]
