PEOPLE-PLEASERS ARE MARTYRS TO NICENESS! I find that most people are more willing to own up to the name “martyr” than “people-pleaser,” though the two are kissing cousins. Martyrdom is a noble little hat to wear, and a lot of my clients come to coaching with it clutched ruefully in their hands. Their priorities are […]
Have you ever been awed by someone’s unflinching commitment to a cause? Gotten goosebumps from a poignant mission statement? A person who has found and followed their true mission is a brilliant sight to behold – they move mountains, they make magic, they motivate even when the going gets tough. They are changed to the […]
Imagine that the inner workings of your brain are wired together just like a computer. Your own personal Operating System. Its job is simply to keep all your various programs humming in action; it drives everything – dictating how well you perform, what results you produce, how you think and feel. Let’s refer to it […]
Ever notice that no matter how MANY great, appreciative emails/texts/calls you receive, you only really care about the one lousy one you got? Hell, you talk about it for days, forward it to friends, and though you don’t bring it to Michael’s Art Supply to frame it, you might as well. Why is that? WE LIKE […]
I blew off my exercise plan this week. Now, I had my reasons … And they TOTALLY made sense at the time! Yes, I had a plan to get up and go for a jog on Thursday morning, but the baby had been up during the night and I was really tired, and not feeling […]
DESIGN YOUR LIFE If you didn’t know any better, you might say that sounds hard, right? We use the word “design” to describe how a person can plan and create highly specific and rewarding results in their lives, in any area. Sometimes people misunderstand that! They think “designing” means being more controlling, more restricting. Cramming […]
We’ve all been there – in a situation where somebody annoys the crap out of us. That little voice in your head goes off… Are you freakin’ kidding me? Can you believe what she just did to me? What is this person thinking?! Hell, sometimes we even say that stuff out loud. I find myself […]
SECRETS KILL RELATIONSHIPS. I’m not just talking about intimate relationships between married couples and partners; I’m talking about all relationships. The hyperconnectivity and mass exposure of our current world has ironically left us isolated from each other and unable to maintain real, authentic connections, and secrets about who we are and who we want people […]
Ever notice that no matter how MANY great, appreciative emails/texts/calls you receive, you only really care about the one lousy one you got? Hell, you talk about it for days, forward it to friends, and though you don’t bring it to Michael’s Art Supply to frame it, you might as well. Why is that? WE […]
Ever notice that no matter how MANY great, appreciative emails/texts/calls you receive, you only really care about the one lousy one you got? Hell, you talk about it for days, forward it to friends, and though you don’t bring it to Michael’s Art Supply to frame it, you might as well. Why is that? WE […]
Anyone familiar with my writing knows that I am a BIG advocate of telling the truth. The truth is the foundation of the method I use to coach my clients, lead workshops and seminars, and govern my own life, from finances to food and everything in between. I tell the truth about how much money […]
“History will be kind to me, for I intend to write it” – Winston Churchill Everyone has their own personal history: the collection of stories we were told about times we were too young to remember, along with stories we experienced ourselves, spun together by our own interpretation in the present moment. Our history holds […]
