Clinical depression is a serious medical condition that affects millions of Americans every year, but what about all us other people out there who are just plain unhappy sometimes? What can we do to feel better? I have the perfect prescription. It’s called “stop lying.” Lying may be the reason that you feel so […]
Have you noticed that the New Agers are telling you to go towards your bliss? To notice what you love to do, what gives you pleasure and joy, and do more of that? Pshaw, I say. Gravitate to what you hate.Here are some things I used to hate:– Carrots– Exercise that required sweating– My brother– […]
When was the last time you dreamed? I’m talking about dreaming and achieving something that you really want in your life. I bet, when you were younger, you dreamed all the time, but something happened and it didn’t turn out. That’s probably when you slowly gave up on dreaming. Or maybe you’re one of those […]
It’s getting to be that time of year when we especially take stock and think of changing. That makes me happy, but please don’t just make resolutions. Why? Resolutions are the reason the gym is so crowded on January 2nd, but also pretty empty by January 15th. Resolutions have within them the suggestion of an […]
It’s time for a little levity. I love comedy!The comedian, Jeff Foxworthy, of Blue Collar Comedy fame, is known for his “You might be a redneck if . . . ” bit. Well, I liked that format so much (though please don’t hold his stereotyping against me) that I decided to do a Handel version […]
Sometimes I think so hard I get a headache. And I really think I am solving my problems optimally this way. Upon further reflection, what has always preceded the fastest and most miraculous fulfillment of my dreams and visions has been a shift in consciousness, not thinking up a really good insight or plan. Dangit. What’s up with that?There are multiple […]
I am currently considering throwing a tantrum. My unwitting bosses have foolishly asked me to organize the holiday party. They have assured me that it is “my turn” and that I can delegate all the details and that it’s easy. They’ve even offered to help. But I know the truth: It’s a huge pain in […]
Sometimes I think, “If it weren’t for people, I’d get a lot more done.” Then I laugh, because that is hysterical. I’m a life coach. My job is people. I help people be happy and effective in their lives. I work with other people in order to do that, lots of people. Then, when I am […]
Coaching implies a sideline and a field. As your coach, I am on the sideline while you are on the field in your life, with your people, playing the game. It’s my job to get you really good at it, but your job isn’t passing, shooting, running, defending the goal, etc. Your job is relating […]
This is not going to be your typical parenting list reminding you to get down to eye level with your kids, take a pause and really listen. This is a deeper cut and it’s a little radical, so be prepared. The basic theory is this: your kids are going to turn into you. In many […]
The answer is, whatever you are focusing on with feelings. It’s too damn bad we do not have better control over our inner dialogue because it is ruling the roost and manifesting “our destiny.” We channel our feelings into the “third eye” and, like the headlamp of a Burning Man biker at midnight, it blazes […]
Let me be the parent you wish you had.Let me tell you what is indelibly magic about you and not let you forget.Let me find you beautiful and fascinating.Let me see all of you and still find you whole, pure, capable and full of power.Let me show you my darkness and let you feel you […]
