Coaching implies a sideline and a field. As your coach, I am on the sideline while you are on the field in your life, with your people, playing the game. It’s my job to get you really good at it, but your job isn’t passing, shooting, running, defending the goal, etc. Your job is relating […]
This is not going to be your typical parenting list reminding you to get down to eye level with your kids, take a pause and really listen. This is a deeper cut and it’s a little radical, so be prepared. The basic theory is this: your kids are going to turn into you. In many […]
Let me be the parent you wish you had.Let me tell you what is indelibly magic about you and not let you forget.Let me find you beautiful and fascinating.Let me see all of you and still find you whole, pure, capable and full of power.Let me show you my darkness and let you feel you […]
– When I was your age, we didn’t have cell phones or laptops.– When I was your age, we had to work for our spending money.– When I was your age, kids respected their parents.– When I was your age, I walked barefoot to and from school, uphill both ways.“When I was your age…” is […]
Saturday morning we woke up before 7am, to not the pitter-patter of little feet, but the stomping of 8 little feet and the whimpering of a 2 year old who’d been awoken by those feet. It was too early for us and the other lovely couple, whose home we were sharing for the family fun […]
Often I tell you about things I mess up with my husband. Today, I want to tell you about something I did right. I was walking to meet my husband, he was with the kids, I was dropping something off. As I approached him at the car I found him pacing, like an angry bull. […]
At MIT, we teach a course called Designing Your Life, which is a pretty broad topic, but we break it down to the 18 major areas of life: relationships, family, body, health, career, money, fun, love, romance, sex, etc. Now I feel the need to break it down even further because of what happened for me […]
A client, Diane, we’ll call her, recently reported in an email to her coach and me having two really difficult conversations: one with a former love-interest and one with a friend. In both, she had to admit some embarrassing thoughts she was hiding. She did NOT get the response she was hoping for or feel […]
This story cracks me up every time my husband tells it. He used to head up an elementary program at a Montessori school and he had a room full of 6-10 year-olds to deal with every day. There was always conflict, but there was one boy who repeatedly got into physical altercations with other kids. […]
In order to grow up, you have to take your parents off the pedestal or out of the ditch. Most of you have either written your parents off as awful and focus on how you are different, or you still think your parents are somehow god-like and not subject to all the human phenomena you […]
A very sad thing happened in my daughter’s life recently. We found out a camp counselor with whom she was very close had committed suicide. It’s really got me thinking about what’s wrong with the world, how much I want to fix it and how much I need your help. It starts with an individual […]
I promised I’d give you tips on framing your conversations in order to deliver “your truth” with both grace and wisdom. First of all, if you still just want to fight, this won’t work. Take a long, hard look at whether or not you are ready to get the chip off your shoulder and hear […]
