When we give people the “18 Areas of Life” assignment (part of The Handel Method®) there are always a few areas that stump people. Let me explain. We start coaching with a thorough assessment of your dreams and current reality in all the areas of your life. The “areas” include Body, Love, Career, Money, Time, […]

 I’m regularly scared these days, and I have clients who are scared, too. We all have good reasons: before a really important presentation, after a fight, before taking a big risk, or just not knowing how something you care about is going to turn out.I don’t know about you, but I actually wish I could […]

 I don’t feel guilty about much. Firstly, it’s because my life works really well. Slowly but surely, I have designed all the areas of my life to match my ideals and standards; I take care to plan my days and weeks as well. Secondly, I know that “feeling bad” is a diversion; it usually means […]

 Who Cares?I know it sounds crass, but I have to ask: Do you care? If so, about what? And for how long do you honestly care about it?This is the same question the coaches and I have been vulnerably grappling with in June and we’ve been a little surprised to find that caring wanes very […]

 As I get ever closer to my dream of being able to impact huge numbers of people I am reflecting on the journey I took to get here. If you had asked me a year ago, I am not even sure I would have admitted I had dreams that were beyond where I currently was. […]

A few years back, I did a retreat on the topic of fear. It was illuminating! We had everyone write down their fears and we read them out loud. Can you guess what people were afraid of? – Failing– Embarrassment– Repeating mistakes, which is essentially failure and embarrassment. There is a battle between going for […]

  This week I noticed I was really resenting both my lovely husband Will and my profoundly inspirational boss, Lauren. Why? I’ll get to that later. First, I’ll tell you the “reasons” I gave them.For Will, it was HIS fault I didn’t get enough rest. He kept me up late, let me get up early […]

 You say you want to get the best out of the folks who work for you — OK, if you really do, then most likely, you are going to have to dismantle the current culture of your division or your company. Unless, of course, your culture is one where people deal with and say the […]

 I like a good competition. It’s a trait of mine that fuels my desire for success. Every trait has its good and bad sides. Ambition can be good. Drive? Good. Bug-eyed passion? Mostly good. Wanting to succeed at another’s expense? Not so good. Not rooting for my boss, brother and husband? Pretty BAD- for them, […]

 As the founder and vice-chairman of The Handel Group’s corporate coaching division —and as coach of our top executive clients —I invariably find that when I step into a corporation to start working with an individual or team everyone is gossiping. It’s just a way of life in their workplace and everyone thinks that it’s […]

  It feels like I am in a competition with my brain. Regarding feeling great in and about my body, sometimes my brain-brat wins and sometimes I do, though the scales are starting to tip in my favor.For those of you who missed last week’s blog “Cheat Meal Blues,” I wrote about my “binge” (my weekly […]

 One of the techniques we use in our coaching, and therefore on ourselves, is the creation of personal “laws.” These self-imposed rules, when followed, are designed to have us feel healthy, alive and proud. It’s a great system…mostly.I am so grateful to have laws for my body and for food; since I’ve implemented them, my […]