Coaching implies a sideline and a field. As your coach, I am on the sideline while you are on the field in your life, with your people, playing the game. It’s my job to get you really good at it, but your job isn’t passing, shooting, running, defending the goal, etc. Your job is relating […]
This is not going to be your typical parenting list reminding you to get down to eye level with your kids, take a pause and really listen. This is a deeper cut and it’s a little radical, so be prepared. The basic theory is this: your kids are going to turn into you. In many […]
The answer is, whatever you are focusing on with feelings. It’s too damn bad we do not have better control over our inner dialogue because it is ruling the roost and manifesting “our destiny.” We channel our feelings into the “third eye” and, like the headlamp of a Burning Man biker at midnight, it blazes […]
Let me be the parent you wish you had.Let me tell you what is indelibly magic about you and not let you forget.Let me find you beautiful and fascinating.Let me see all of you and still find you whole, pure, capable and full of power.Let me show you my darkness and let you feel you […]
I’ve been working with a lot of yogis and people in the helping professions lately and I’m dismayed. It’s such a bummer that some of you do gooders think that money is dirty, tainted or just hard to come by, because I want more do gooders to have more money. When idealists have money, they […]
What do managing time well, communicating the truth and manifesting have in common?They all lead to sustainable happiness and they all elude us regularly. Most practitioners treat symptoms; at Handel we study how to solve people’s unhappiness at its source. Always at the source of unhappiness we find breaches in Personal Integrity®, or something that […]
We got nailed again. Part of being extraordinary means you are always open for improvement. In fact, you make it your job to grow, learn, evolve and get better. So, of course, we had to notice the new health wave going on around us and not get dusted! Thanks to pioneers like Kris Carr, the […]
Going to Burning Man was so “unlike me.” I like order, cleanliness and accomplishment. It’s not about any of that. DO YOU KNOW ABOUT BURNING MAN? It’s a week-long gathering of somewhere around 50,000 people, in the middle of a Nevada desert, that come together to socially experiment with self-expression. Everything you bring in you […]
Uh-oh! I caught myself saying the wildest thing to myself the other day. I was at the sink in the bathroom and it was cluttered up with kids’ stuff, my stuff, general messiness. I caught myself thinking: 1) It shouldn’t be this way.2) Whose fault is it?3) This is NOT my job. Argh. Whose job […]
It’s a common misperception in relationships that things should be equal. Not so. Did that get your attention? Keep reading. Do we agree that most fights in relationships have to do with unmet expectations about who is responsible for what? (This includes keeping love, romance, trust and sex alive and thriving!) For example, you might […]
Recently I was upset to find that I still believe in some pretty dumb-ass theories. Namely, the thought that I am not romantic and that it’s not my job to clean up after myself. Yikes! Gross and unhelpful to my marriage right? But then I realized this is an epidemic, and everyone has his/her brand. […]