For years, I worked 12-hour days in a cluttered, dark, ugly, poorly organized home office. I said I didn’t care and I really believed it. And, I wish I could tell you that it was my own genius or courage that caused me to care (or fine, to actually clean), but it wasn’t. It was a combination of […]

Why can’t I get what I want? You might think you are doing everything you can to get healthy, thin, a better job, a better love relationship. But, I doubt it. More likely, your inner 6 year-old is making most of your decisions for you. We call that youthful voice in your head “the brat” and […]

We all know that the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree.  And yes, in this scenario, you are the apple and your family is the tree.  In order for you to design a beautiful relationship with yourself in all areas of your life, you have to deal with the tree. Not what you […]

I got caught with another addiction. Now this isn’t really a new addiction. I’ve had it so long that it’s basically part of my personality and people just consider it to be a “Katie trait”. But it had become obvious enough to the people around me that it landed me in the middle of an […]

Have you ever done a detox? It’s pretty radical. Ancient wisdom from many cultures teaches us to leave our land fallow at regular intervals. Taking a break is so important. Whether it’s food, drugs, technology or love – letting something go for a prescribed period of time causes a huge shift that just curtailing won’t. I […]

Our relationships are the most important thing in our lives. I want to talk about how to build a great relationship with your partner. But the points apply to your parents, siblings, co-workers, boss, clients, children and friends as well. Sometimes when you talk to someone and tell them your concerns, it opens up a […]

When the news brings the awareness of actual tragedies into your everyday life, it can be rattling. Hearing about random shootings, missing planes or freak illnesses brings up thoughts and feelings we’d rather not have. Most common: What if it was me or someone I love? Being forced to ask those questions is uncomfortable, yet we […]

Have you ever been in a bookstore and walked past the diet section and seen an extremely overweight woman sitting on the floor searching through stacks of diet books? Well, for years I was that woman. I would spend my Saturday afternoons on the floor of Barnes and Noble drinking a mocha latte and flipping […]

Okay, I’ll admit it. I had a 30-second fantasy about having an affair today. The trigger? I was jogging in the rain and so was some dude with his kid who ran past me coming from the other direction. We were intrepid. He mumbled something encouraging and ran on. I swear it was only 30 […]

We have all experienced unexplainable lucky, coincidences in our lives. I’m talking about situations like bumping into an old friend you had been thinking about in a remote location or randomly being offered tickets to a sold-out concert that you had been dreaming of attending. At the Handel Group®, we refer to these supernatural events […]

Different than man-ing, bucking or shutting up, at 48-years-old, I managed to Mother Up.  What’s it mean?  Bet, if there were a sub-URBAN dictionary, it would read something like this: MOTHER UP (v) To eat the roll, baguette or what have you and blame the waiter who brought the basket. To don an underwire bra. […]

Two weeks ago, I appeared on the TODAY show to talk about dealing with uncertainty during times of change. As humans, we love to control EVERYTHING. We will do almost anything to avoid feeling uncertain — but sometimes, it’s just unavoidable. Uncertainty can feel unsettling — even crippling at times — but it’s essential for […]