Sometimes the Design Your Life Weekend has such a deep effect on people they make major life changes immediately. This week, I want to share with everyone a letter I received from an August Design Your Life Weekend participant that shows just how quickly she changed her life. When she first came in, based on […]

 Last week, I gave you step-by-step instructions on how to speak your truth with grace. By the way, thanks for all the comments on my blog; I even heard from many of you that you printed it out to carry with you- great idea! Everyone I know who is having the hard conversations in their […]

I promised I’d give you tips on framing your conversations in order to deliver “your truth” with both grace and wisdom. First of all, if you still just want to fight, this won’t work. Take a long, hard look at whether or not you are ready to get the chip off your shoulder and hear […]

 When we give people the “18 Areas of Life” assignment (part of The Handel Method®) there are always a few areas that stump people. Let me explain. We start coaching with a thorough assessment of your dreams and current reality in all the areas of your life. The “areas” include Body, Love, Career, Money, Time, […]

 I’m regularly scared these days, and I have clients who are scared, too. We all have good reasons: before a really important presentation, after a fight, before taking a big risk, or just not knowing how something you care about is going to turn out.I don’t know about you, but I actually wish I could […]

 I don’t feel guilty about much. Firstly, it’s because my life works really well. Slowly but surely, I have designed all the areas of my life to match my ideals and standards; I take care to plan my days and weeks as well. Secondly, I know that “feeling bad” is a diversion; it usually means […]

 Who Cares?I know it sounds crass, but I have to ask: Do you care? If so, about what? And for how long do you honestly care about it?This is the same question the coaches and I have been vulnerably grappling with in June and we’ve been a little surprised to find that caring wanes very […]

 As I get ever closer to my dream of being able to impact huge numbers of people I am reflecting on the journey I took to get here. If you had asked me a year ago, I am not even sure I would have admitted I had dreams that were beyond where I currently was. […]

A few years back, I did a retreat on the topic of fear. It was illuminating! We had everyone write down their fears and we read them out loud. Can you guess what people were afraid of? – Failing– Embarrassment– Repeating mistakes, which is essentially failure and embarrassment. There is a battle between going for […]

  This week I noticed I was really resenting both my lovely husband Will and my profoundly inspirational boss, Lauren. Why? I’ll get to that later. First, I’ll tell you the “reasons” I gave them.For Will, it was HIS fault I didn’t get enough rest. He kept me up late, let me get up early […]

 You say you want to get the best out of the folks who work for you — OK, if you really do, then most likely, you are going to have to dismantle the current culture of your division or your company. Unless, of course, your culture is one where people deal with and say the […]

 I like a good competition. It’s a trait of mine that fuels my desire for success. Every trait has its good and bad sides. Ambition can be good. Drive? Good. Bug-eyed passion? Mostly good. Wanting to succeed at another’s expense? Not so good. Not rooting for my boss, brother and husband? Pretty BAD- for them, […]