Guess what the most powerful coaching is about careers? Strengths and weaknesses? Your resume? Reaching out to everyone you know? Nope, it’s this: Plan TIME to work on your career. Doesn’t that seem so simple? In the Handel Method®, we teach people to see that thoughts lead to feelings and feelings lead to actions, which […]
Guess why I chose teaching elementary school as my career when I was in college? Because ALL I knew was this:1) I wanted to help people.2) I wanted to be able to get a job.3) I like a demanding atmosphere with lots to do. It seemed like a sound list of criteria at the […]
I’ll never forget the day I walked away from my life in Los Angeles. It was a beautiful southern California day in the spring of 2005. I sat on the sidewalk outside a busy post office with a backpack and my laptop, waiting for a friend to pick me up. I weighed 265 pounds and […]
Laurie Dhue was at the height of her career. She was a successful news anchor appearing on several networks and even had her own show. Meanwhile, she was killing herself with alcohol and drugs. She masterfully protected her addiction, and hid it well, fooling everyone by being at the top of her career while at […]
Years ago, when I first came to the Handel Group® as a client, I got the whole methodology laid out for me, and I digested it all, chunk by life-changing chunk. Now, as a Co-President in the company and a Senior Coach, I teach others our method. I thought I knew all there was to […]
If you are in a committed relationship, I suggest you tell your partner when you are flirting with someone else. And certainly, if you are cheating. That is, if you want the relationship to be deep, loving, connected and lasting. But actually even if you don’t. I’ll explain why below. I know what you’re thinking: […]
Why do relationships deteriorate over time? What causes people to disconnect and drift apart? I’m not just talking about intimate relationships between married couples and partners; I’m talking about all relationships. What is causing this epidemic of disconnection? Why can’t we maintain a deep connection with the people in our lives? I’ll tell you why. It’s because […]
The other day, I was in a knee-jerk, control mode, trying to get my way with my kids. All the phenomena I experienced were familiar: in the middle of my rant, I felt noble, all my logic made perfect sense to me. The voices in my head sounded intelligent: they are studying wrong, they are […]
I’ve been thinking about stuff. I, like you, have many times thought stuff would make me happy – and that a lack of stuff was what was making me unhappy. I don’t mean just physical things like a house or clothing, but also stuff like people, a great husband, a happy child and even stuff like […]
I’m back at it about health. Maybe it’s the Springtime inspiring me. And I see some of you working on the areas of body and health more than ever. Ain’t it grand? Doesn’t it just shift everything when you start an exercise routine? Don’t you feel better about yourself on EVERY single level? Or […]
Guess what? You have a dark side. Everyone has a dark side. And that dark side is talking to you and filling your head with nasty, mean, dark thoughts on a daily basis. Are you surprised? Most people are. Whenever I mention this to clients, I get the same response, “Huh? Whatta you mean? Me? […]
Only very special people become Handel Group® coaches. I don’t know if you’ve heard of the custom (I learned it from Sex and the City) that if someone is trying to convert to Judaism, the rabbi is supposed to reject them three times and only teach them if their earnestness is proven by the fact […]