Recent current events got me thinking about what truly makes a strong, powerful, and trusted leader in the world. For the purposes of this blog, I will leave discussion about politicians up to CNN, Fox News, and Saturday Night Live. Instead, I will focus on defining leadership abilities and explain how you become a leader […]
Secrets and lies kill relationships. What we keep secret stays real and present for us into the future and impacts our experiences, killing our confidence and our dreams. Shining a light on these secrets and owning up to them sets us free, helps us self-correct, and builds the real intimacy that we so deeply crave. […]
How many of you have ever told your friend that you loved her new outfit, crush, or book recommendation … when really, you couldn’t believe she’d go for such a thing? How many of you have faked an orgasm? Or lied to your (play or permanent) mate that you don’t even care about having one? […]
You say you want love. You’re swiping hard for it. You’re on all the sites (or, at least all of the free trials). You have your friends and coworkers (the few you trust) on your case. You even went so far as to write out your love-dream! AGAIN. But, alas, it’s to no avail. […]
I have a confession: I am a control-freak. I mean, it has its perks – I get a lot done, I get to be the boss of things, people listen to me like I am an authority figure… BUT, there is also a part of this trait that doesn’t care about other people’s experiences, a […]
I believe we were meant to be happy. I am also certain it was meant to be a challenge to get and stay happy. If not, we’d take it for granted and get bored. Therefore, life is about the pursuit of happiness. I used to be generally unhappy and now I am generally happy. How? By […]
For most of us, the subject of TIME is still a very abstract concept. We all know we could be managing our time more effectively, but no amount of list-making or fancy iPhone apps has changed the way we feel about our time – be it stressed, sad, stifled, overwhelmed, or unfulfilled. There is no […]
You picked the person, and called them “most special.” Now, reality has set in, and even though conceptually they are still the most special person in your day to day life, the two of you aren’t treating each other that way at all. We were not taught the needed skills in order to maintain and […]
I don’t know about you (cough, cough), but to be perfectly honest, if I sat around waiting for the day I actually want to eat kale, exercise, jump my husband, or even write (which is my passion) — I’d be fat, my husband would be bitter, and I never would have created and sold my […]
For a long time, I thought my husband was fully responsible for my orgasm. That it was his job to make me feel good. And, even though my husband is a good guy, was up for anything, and wanted to please me, my way of thinking (see: entitled) was getting in the way of us […]
Like all big decisions, a job change or career shift requires tact and integrity. But by the time people are ready to leave a job they have disliked for a long time, they don’t always do it gracefully. The time spent gathering negative evidence about the job (difficult boss, crazy schedule, etc) has inevitably worsened […]
Often I teach a concept called “love is a verb.” My definition of love is to care about the other person’s experience as deeply as you care about your own: how they are feeling, how your actions are impacting them, and what you can do to ensure they feel safe, connected, and loved by you. […]