Still wondering how to win friends and influence people? We’ve been studying it for years and it’s easier (and in some ways trickier) than you may think! I know I am still learning myself. Below are 5 steps for how to ace any conversation with your boss, or anyone else you want to impress or […]
We at the Handel Group believe in “designing your life” and the main tools we use are promises and consequences. From scientific research, we know that neurons that fire together, wire together. As kids, we start to make certain associations (for example: candy tastes good) and then life gets designed for us by the hard-wiring […]
This blog is for people who struggle with time. You probably ask yourself: WHY DO I STRUGGLE SO MUCH WITH TIME MANAGEMENT? Because you don’t realize you are in a relationship with time and right now you are allowing that relationship to be dysfunctional. Time is one of the most important relationships in your life. In fact, […]
For years, I worked 12-hour days in a cluttered, dark, ugly, poorly organized home office. I said I didn’t care and I really believed it. And, I wish I could tell you that it was my own genius or courage that caused me to care (or fine, to actually clean), but it wasn’t. It was a combination of […]
Why can’t I get what I want? You might think you are doing everything you can to get healthy, thin, a better job, a better love relationship. But, I doubt it. More likely, your inner 6 year-old is making most of your decisions for you. We call that youthful voice in your head “the brat” and […]
Have you ever done a detox? It’s pretty radical. Ancient wisdom from many cultures teaches us to leave our land fallow at regular intervals. Taking a break is so important. Whether it’s food, drugs, technology or love – letting something go for a prescribed period of time causes a huge shift that just curtailing won’t. I […]
Our relationships are the most important thing in our lives. I want to talk about how to build a great relationship with your partner. But the points apply to your parents, siblings, co-workers, boss, clients, children and friends as well. Sometimes when you talk to someone and tell them your concerns, it opens up a […]
When the news brings the awareness of actual tragedies into your everyday life, it can be rattling. Hearing about random shootings, missing planes or freak illnesses brings up thoughts and feelings we’d rather not have. Most common: What if it was me or someone I love? Being forced to ask those questions is uncomfortable, yet we […]
Okay, I’ll admit it. I had a 30-second fantasy about having an affair today. The trigger? I was jogging in the rain and so was some dude with his kid who ran past me coming from the other direction. We were intrepid. He mumbled something encouraging and ran on. I swear it was only 30 […]
Two weeks ago, I appeared on the TODAY show to talk about dealing with uncertainty during times of change. As humans, we love to control EVERYTHING. We will do almost anything to avoid feeling uncertain — but sometimes, it’s just unavoidable. Uncertainty can feel unsettling — even crippling at times — but it’s essential for […]
Some of us are so cynical we don’t even make resolutions anymore. Life is so busy and there are only 24 hours in the day. How can we possibly accomplish all the things we dream of accomplishing? We can’t. That’s a fact. But what’s also true is that people are the happiest when they take […]
Please listen to this lovely little song my 9-year old daughter Lela wrote quite spontaneously. I Don’t Wanna I don’t wanna grow up. I don’t wanna go to school. I don’t want any ‘sponsibilities. I don’t want to have a family. I just wanna be lazy. And cuddle my mommy. I don’t wanna get a job. […]
